On Friday, I was in the midst of an "emergency call" at 7pm with a Sydney client of mine as she was grappling with a number of dating dilemmas and in need of urgent help.
Cynthia is in her 30's and only very new to Rules dating. This was her very first Date 1 with a guy she'd met just over a week ago at speed dating. She had already been struggling all week with allowing him to take the lead with setting up the date because it was taking so long for him to just get all those details out there to her. "Why did it have to be so hard with all of this back-and-forth tennis match just to get to the time and place?" she said.
The Date 1 was a Friday night because another guy she'd met at the same speed dating event had already pinned her down for Saturday night. Cynthia had also agreed to meet him in the city, as she was working in the city that day and she thought it would be convenient for her. I explain to my clients that the location of a date is about your convenience. You don't want to find yourself in a situation where you're running around like crazy, rushing to get ready for a date and then travelling long distances to get to him. Remember, men take about five minutes to get ready. Women take one hour MINIMUM, some much longer. And also a good guy appreciates the journey, the effort, of coming to where you are.
Cynthia began emailing me around 6:45 pm. She'd only just received a text from him: