Is this a familiar scene? Just about everyone, at some point in a relationship, can relate to this situation. But what’s really wrong here?
They met, were crazy about each other but then bought a condo together and moved in. According to The Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, this is a big rule-breaker. He’s getting all the benefits of having a wife without having committed to her. A man needs to be given the opportunity to work hard to prove himself to the woman he loves during the dating period. If she doesn’t let him do that, he won’t appreciate her as much and will be happy to shack up and take her for granted. It’s human nature. And the bottom line is, men need a challenge to win the heart of the woman of their dreams. When a man goes fishing, does he want someone to just throw some fish in the boat to save him the time and effort? Of course not! He wants the thrill of the hunt and the prize of a big fish, even if he has to wait all day for it.
By taking your time and not moving in with him before he’s asked you to marry him, you’re not over-investing in a relationship too soon. Once you're married, you’re dealing with a totally different situation. You’ll know you’ve chosen to marry a good guy, who has proven his worth time and again.
Here are the five things to take away from this clip from The Break-Up.
You can’t tell a man what to do.
Have you ever tried instructing a man on what to do? Does it work? It might once or twice or for a little while, but does nagging him ever really change him? Frustration and resentment will build on both sides over time. Eventually, you have to get to a point where you understand it’s just not working. So why not let it be you who makes the decision to do